I’ve decided to write something different on a topic that may be a bit controversial and just open up mixed opinions and thoughts. In the new category I have decided to start, ‘Rants’, I will basically be venting my thoughts on topics. These will be my personal views or opinions and I completely respect other views 🙂 Hope you like it and to kick it off I thought I’d start with the constantly shamed and hidden ‘body marks’.
First of all, I’d like to put it out there that I am so sick of features being labelled as not ‘normal’ and ‘weird’ or ‘ugly’. I would start on media and photoshopping models and all the rest of that but I think I’ll save it for my next rant 🙂 I think our imperfections are what makes us who we are and the ‘perfect’, ‘ideal bodies’ we are exposed to online daily have taken a big toll on how we perceive ourselves and others. Scars, stretch marks, birth marks and beauty spots are constantly being shamed, whined about or removed for beauty reasons but they aren’t ugly, disgusting, abnormal or weird.
To tell the truth, I have a scar under my chin, many stretch marks (red and white) as well as several large beauty spots on my neck and another in the palm of my hand. I used to hate them. I spent hours online looking up various stretch mark removal process’ and have asked my GP to check my beauty spots for skin cancer every time I went solely to get them removed. He said they were fine everytime and didn’t recommend surgically removing them without any medical reason.
After moisturizing, exfoliating, testing natural DIY treatments and seeing zero results, I gave up. I know it shouldn’t have taken me this long to realise that my ‘marks’ weren’t ugly or abnormal but now I cant believe how oblivious I was to how stupid and unrealistic stereotypes and our perception of beauty is. Scars tell stories. I am intrigued by other people’s scars and amazed how each mark tells a completely different story. You have something to show for an exerience for the rest of your life, whether it was a good one or a bad one, it’s apart of you no matter what. I undertsand that some scars have bad memories you’d rather not remmeber or share. I understand that and completely respect people who choose to hude their scars.
Basically, I want you all to try to begin loving yourselves a bit more and accepting all your body marks and imperfections. They make you who you are. Unique and beautiful. I know we should be able to do this ourselves but I also think that finding someone else who loves and appreciates your imperfections will help you embrace them. So, if you can’t bring yourself to like them, I hope you find someone in life that does. Because they’re you. Trust me when I say if you’ve found someone that does this, they’re probably a keeper 🙂
Thanks for reading this rant haha. Love you and always remember, stop trying to figure out how to get rid of your imperfections and start loving them. I hope I’ve been able to sway or enlighten some of you and if not, please just remember you’re beautiful just the way you are. I can promise you happiness starts with a little self-love 🙂
– Wish and Wonder Girl xxx
P.S. Decided to put this in another new category, ‘Love Yourself’. I enjoyed writing this so much and hope it inspires you as much as it did me 🙂